Letting go of ego

Ego is a curious entity. Some experts say it is a part of our human makeup because it keeps our species alive. Other experts say it is the one reason that is going to end man's existence.

Ego cost me the ability to enjoy sports, relationships and my career. All of these became anxious nightmares because I was placing my whole identity on being the best, which translated into superiority or at least higher human hierarchy.

I think sometimes we lose many quality traits like self-esteem, pride, assertiveness, responsible and well-groomed because we mistakenly place it under the umbrella of Ego. In fact I would argue that ego is the complete opposite of these adjectives. I once said about me "I have done many good deeds, but at times for the wrong reason." The tasks I was doing for good, like getting my Master's degree to help cardiac patients heal and live healthy lives, on the surface appeared admirable.

But underneath this humanitarian surface lie the falsity of Ego. It is true that I help many people but I was so proud of me that I forgot who I was serving. My Ego was telling me that I was a superior person that should have respect. My Ego was telling me that I was better than my comrade brother because I had the "made out" prestigious job versus their more pheasant job. Now I may be putting more judgment on myself because I never treated the house cleaners and groundskeepers any less than I treated the Doctors.

But I would often think to me "how can these people be so happy working so hard for such little money." That is pure ego. The funny part of Ego is it can present itself in many simple forms.

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Let me give you an example on Ego and how tricky it can be to be aware of its presence. Let's say that a person realizes that they are too wrapped up in themselves (ego) and work hard to replace human hierarchy, materialism, their need to be always right and judgment. But it in the process becomes judgmental of those that don't surrender their Egotistical ways. Well, this is ego again showing feeding its ugly side, which only strengthens it, so subtly. I often notice this in many organized religion and politics. I am right and you are wrong and I will even commit war against you and kill those of you that think differently than I.

I have said the ego, if left unnoticed, will eventually kill its host. Suicide, by having so much in life but still not being happy, is the Ego which is running out of food to survive. Many times the Ego will feast on short-lived roles (being an all-mighty Doctor, Lawyer, CEO); or conquest (sleeping with many women, or a women so caught up in proving herself equal in the workforce). Soon Ego needs more of these short-term victories to feel fulfilled. Environmental pollution, Global warming, nations at war all connecting with Ego. "I need to control and have tons of money, even at the expense of the planet. I or we need to be right, resulting in other young men and women lay their lives on the line so a country's leader can display that their ideals are the correct way.

If you were to read "Radical Forgiveness" by Colin Tipping or "A New Earth" by Eckhart Tolle you will discover that in the basic breakdown of their philosophy about Ego is letting go of roles that define you. The reason, once the role ceases to exist then you no longer know who are and this leads to depression, anxiety and a need fulfillment by outside sources.

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The roles can be as obvious as parenting, our profession, our team, and our community or as subtle as our religious beliefs. So how do you have a sense of pride? And who are we?

Let me start by answering the second question "who are we"; the answer is I don't know. The difficulty in this answer is accepting it for what it is and not analyze. If you need something to hang your hat on the two authors would say "you are a spiritual being having a human experience" and there is no need for human Ego.

The response to the first question about pride, the authors keep this simple. Pride is neither good nor bad. Pride is only unhealthy when it is ego driven. You loose yourself in the identification with anything other than the one identity that makes every living organism special and connects all of us -Source Energy. This creates what they call duality or cutting ourselves off from the Divine.

I see this displayed coaching youth hockey - I have even seen it in me. Parents come to cheer for their children only to leave the rink shouting at them or getting into a fight with another parent. The parent's own ego has been threaten because of how identified they have become with the success of their child. Almost to the point where they feel the child has caused them to lose their pride and their human and community hierarchy.

I encourage you to read the two books on Ego. However, I want to leave you with on major theme of both these authors and that is not to fight your Ego. Conflict only makes the Ego stronger. Be ware of it and notice it in yourself and in others without judgment, just become aware and accept the Ego. Once the Ego is under the spotlight it will begin to dissolve on its own.

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